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How to Receive More by Honoring What Truly Serves You
Two years ago, I was sitting with a girlfriend, wine glass in hand, casually talking about “what’s next.” My husband and I had been tossing around ideas about our future home. At the time, my vision was very binary: either we stay put until we can afford our forever home, or… well, there really was…
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The Capacity Gap: Why Two People With the Same Income Live Two Very Different Lives
Not long ago, one of my good good girlfriends came into town.(And yes, I said good good because one “good” is not good enough when we’re talking about my girls.) Her visit turned into a “let’s all get together” kind of moment, so I called another one of my good good girlfriends, and the three…
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This Isn’t What I Planned—But Maybe It’s Exactly What I Needed
How Creating a Beautiful Life at 50 Changed Everything Ten years ago, I was just beginning to grieve the version of life I thought would save me.I was starting therapy, learning how to use my voice, and finally admitting that the “rules” I followed didn’t lead to the happily-ever-after I was promised. It felt like…
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The Happiness Hoax: The Lie They Told Us About Hard Work & Sacrifice
“How much longer do I have to wait?” I remember sitting in my car, gripping the steering wheel so tight my knuckles turned white. I was tired. And I don’t just mean “I-need-a-nap” tired. I mean soul tired. The kind of tired that makes you want to scream. I had done everything right. I worked…
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Make Happy the Goal: The Soft, Rich, and Satisfied Life of Black Women
Tuesdays Feel Like Happiness! The moment I wake up on a Tuesday morning, I already know—it’s going to be a good day. Not because something big is happening. Not because I checked a milestone off my list. But because Tuesday is mine. I wake up late, slow, and easy—no rushing, no obligations that feel like…
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Luxury Is Not only a White Woman’s Sport: Choosing Happiness, Softness & the Luxury We Deserve
“You’re moving too fast, sis.” The voice was warm, amused, and slightly knowing. I looked up, slightly flustered, still juggling my phone, my carry-on bag, and the half-empty cup of tea I had grabbed in a rush. I was in the lobby of a gorgeous boutique hotel, fresh off a flight, moving with the urgency…
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With Love, Megan: The Uproar Over Black Women Choosing Themselves—And Why It Won’t Stop Us
For most of my life, I lived under the shadow of a single word: selfish. I heard it constantly growing up, always attached to a warning, a lesson, a fear. My mother, without meaning to, planted in me the idea that selfishness was the worst thing a person—especially a Black woman—could be. She would tell…
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Wear the Dress, Burn the Candle, Use the “Good” China: Why Life Is Meant to Be Lived Now
The Tuesday That Changed My Perspective It was a Tuesday. Not just any Tuesday—Taco Tuesday, one of my favorite little rituals of joy. I was on my way to meet a girlfriend for lunch, soaking up the small but sweet pleasure of a midday outing in my work-live-play community. And then, I saw her. My…
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The Art of Doing Nothing: Why Rest Is a Revolutionary Act
The First Lesson in Rest: My Husband’s Revolution Eighteen years ago, after saying I do, I unknowingly walked into one of the most transformative lessons of my life. It wasn’t about love.It wasn’t about communication.It wasn’t about compromise. It was about rest. When my husband and I first moved in together, I was in full…
Slower, Wealthier, Happier 