Slower, Wealthier, Happier

I was about 29 years old when I first realized that money wasn’t everything.

At that time, my life looked like success on the outside. My bank account was healthy. I had several real estate properties in my portfolio. I hadn’t started investing in the stock market yet, but I had stamps in my passport from traveling the world. I was driving my dream luxury car. I was living in my very first real estate property.

If you looked at me, you would’ve thought, she has it all together.

And yet… I didn’t feel whole.

I remember thinking: Maybe if I pay off my mortgage, I’ll feel better. Maybe if I pay off my student loans, I’ll feel lighter. Maybe if I pay off my car note, then I’ll finally feel whole.

At that stage, my definition of “peace” was tied to debt freedom. So I went into hustle mode. I prayed for wisdom, I worked harder, I strategized. And it “worked.” I paid off my student loans, I cleared my credit cards, I paid off my car.

But the day I sat on the edge of my bed, completely debt-free, I realized something that shook me: This still isn’t it.

I still didn’t feel whole.

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Why Hustle Can’t Fix What’s Internal

Looking back, I realize I was trying to hustle my way into wholeness. I thought if I did enough, if I accomplished enough, if I checked enough boxes, then I’d finally feel settled and complete.

But the truth? Hustle can’t heal the parts of us that are fractured inside. Hustle can buy you things, pay off bills, create external success—but it cannot soothe a restless heart, regulate a tired nervous system, or heal old wounds you’ve been carrying for years.

And I didn’t even have the language back then to say I was searching for “wholeness.” All I knew was that I had so much, but it still didn’t feel like enough.

So I kept chasing the next thing. Maybe marriage would fix it. Maybe another property. Maybe another milestone. Maybe deeper involvement in church.

But it wasn’t until years later—closer to my 40s—that I began to understand wholeness.

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So, What Is Wholeness?

Wholeness isn’t perfection. It’s not the absence of problems.

Wholeness is integration. It’s the awareness that your mind, body, spirit, and emotions all matter. It’s when you learn that no amount of hustling can replace peace of mind, regulated rest, or the joy of simply being present in your own life.

Wholeness looks like:

• Mind: Being able to quiet the racing thoughts and actually hear yourself. Choosing thoughts that build instead of thoughts that break.
  
• Body: Listening when your body is tired instead of pushing past every signal. Moving, nourishing, and resting in ways that sustain you.
  
• Spirit: Feeling connected—to God, to your inner wisdom, to something greater than your to-do list.
  
• Heart/Emotions: Acknowledging pain, grief, and trauma instead of burying it under accomplishments. Seeking healing, therapy, or community to process what you’ve carried.
  

Wholeness is knowing that when you feel “off,” it’s not about fixing something outside of you. It’s about returning inward and tending to yourself with honesty and care.

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The Day I Chose Wholeness

Today, I am so happy and grateful that I understand what wholeness means—and more importantly, I know how to stabilize myself when I feel unbalanced.

I know now that when I feel anxious or restless, I don’t need to throw myself into more work. I don’t need to pile on another project. I don’t need to go buy something or chase something.

Instead, I pause. I check in with my breath. I ask myself what part of me feels unacknowledged—mind, body, spirit, or heart. And then I respond with care.

That is wholeness.

It doesn’t mean I never hustle—it just means my hustle doesn’t own me anymore. My hustle is fueled by my wholeness, not the other way around.

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The Tie-In

As we step out of Thanksgiving, I can’t help but connect this lesson to the season. Because gratitude and wholeness walk hand in hand.

Wholeness says: I don’t need to hustle for worthiness—I am already enough.

Wholeness says: I can rest, eat, laugh, love, and be present with my people without guilt.

Wholeness says: I am not what I do, I am who I am.

And from that place, everything I create—whether money, business, or overflow—flows more freely.

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Soft Challenge: Work From Wholeness, Not Hustle

Here’s my soft challenge for you this week:

Don’t move from hustle. Move from wholeness.

Ask yourself:

• What part of me needs my attention right now—mind, body, spirit, or heart?
  
• Am I hustling to prove something, or am I moving from a grounded, whole place?
  
• What would wholeness feel like in my daily life this week?
  

Write it down. Breathe it in. And practice it.

Because when you work from wholeness instead of hustle—you win. Every single time.

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Your Invitation

Beautiful one, I want you to know: money is powerful, but money alone will never complete you. Hustle will never make you whole. You deserve more than that.

You deserve rest. You deserve joy. You deserve a whole, full, beautiful life.

And if you’re ready to go deeper into these conversations—about money, rest, peace, and true wealth—I invite you to join us inside Wealthy Women Conversations. That’s where we talk about these things, not just as ideas, but as ways of living.

Let’s say yes to wholeness together.

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