Slower, Wealthier, Happier

Ease was not a normal thought for me.

Not growing up.
Not in my twenties.
Not even in my thirties.

My normal was pushing past.

Pushing past hurt.
Pushing past disappointment.
Pushing past hard situations.
Pushing past loss.

Even pushing past happiness.

That was just my way of living — to keep moving, keep proving, keep performing, no matter how I felt. And for a while, I didn’t question it. I thought that was what life required of me.

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The Breaking Point

It wasn’t until after I turned 40 — after a breakdown that left me stripped of all my old coping mechanisms — that I realized something had to change.

I had prayed all I knew to pray.
I had worked myself into exhaustion.
I had even tried going back to school for another degree, thinking maybe achievement would fix me.

But none of it worked.

The more I tried to push my way forward, the more stuck and depleted I felt.

That’s when I finally got help. I started therapy, and for the first time, I began to understand the pressure I had been living under:

• Pressure to be approved of.
  
• Pressure to perform perfectly.
  
• Pressure to live up to expectations that no one had actually said out loud, but I had absorbed all the same.
  

Church expectations.
Family expectations.
Cultural expectations.

I had carried them all — until I collapsed under the weight.

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A New Kind of Discovery

During that season, I stumbled across something I had never heard of before: Human Design.

Now, I had taken plenty of personality tests in my life.
Enneagram. Myers-Briggs. Work-style assessments. Career-related quizzes. Horoscopes.

But most of them just repeated back to me what I already knew. Nothing new. Nothing that shifted me at the core.

So when I came across a woman on social media talking about how understanding your human design could help you see why life wasn’t working the way you thought it should, my curiosity was sparked.

I filled out the details. The results came back. And what I read next blew me away.

According to my design, my superpower was rest.

Rest.

The very thing I had been avoiding, denying, and even despising.

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Rest as a Superpower

I almost laughed out loud when I saw it. How could rest be my superpower? Everything I had been taught about success, about business, about being a “boss” told me the opposite.

Rest was for the weak.
Rest was for the lazy.
Rest was for when you died.

But the deeper I dug, the clearer it became: rest wasn’t my enemy. It was my gift.

It was the very thing my body, my nervous system, and my soul had been crying out for all those years.

I had pushed so long and so hard that my nervous system was completely fried. My stomach was a mess. My energy was gone. My joy was missing. I wasn’t just tired — I was depleted.

Rest wasn’t optional. Rest was the doorway to becoming who I really was.

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From Rest to Ease

The more I leaned into this truth, the more I began to experience something I had never known before: ease.

Not ease as in “no work.”
Not ease as in “no challenges.”

Ease as in allowing.

Allowing things to flow.
Allowing life to support me instead of me fighting it every step of the way.
Allowing myself to let go of performing and proving, and instead showing up as the woman I was created to be.

And here’s what I learned:

Ease doesn’t mean lazy.
Ease doesn’t mean careless.
Ease means aligned.

Ease is what happens when you stop forcing what isn’t yours and start allowing what is.

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Why Ease Matters for Wealth

This shift into ease didn’t just change my emotional life — it transformed my wealth.

When I lived in push and performance, I made progress… but at a cost. My health. My peace. My clarity.

When I started living in ease, I realized that money flows more freely when I’m rested, present, and open. Opportunities feel lighter. Decisions feel clearer. Mistakes don’t multiply, because I’m not rushing.

Ease creates space for wealth to grow without costing you your life.

That’s the wealthiest thing I’ve ever learned.

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Saying Yes to Ease

So here’s my invitation to you: what would it look like for you to say yes to more ease?

Not when you retire.
Not when everything is perfect.
Not when you’ve “earned” the right to slow down.

Now.

Because here’s the truth: ease isn’t the reward at the end of the race. It’s the condition that allows you to win in a way you can actually sustain.

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Soft Challenge: Say Yes to Rest Today

Here’s your soft challenge:

👉🏾 Say yes to rest, right now, in one small way.

• Take a 20-minute nap without guilt.
  
• Close your laptop at a reasonable hour.
  
• Let yourself linger over tea instead of rushing to the next thing.
  
• Put your phone down and breathe deeply for 5 minutes.
  

Say yes to ease — even if it feels foreign, even if it feels counterproductive. Because ease is not the enemy. It’s the evidence that you are finally aligned.

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Closing

Ease was never natural to me. It felt foreign. But discovering it as my superpower has been one of the greatest gifts of my life.

It’s why I’m here today, living slower, wealthier, and happier — not because I pushed my way into it, but because I finally said yes to more ease.

And I want the same for you.

If you’re ready to explore what saying yes to ease could look like in your money, your health, and your happiness, come join me in Wealthy Women Conversations.

We’re not just building bank accounts. We’re building lives we actually love living.

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