Slower, Wealthier, Happier

There’s this quiet, tender ache that lives under so many of our dreams—the belief that we have to deserve the good things we want. That we must earn, prove, or justify the joy, abundance, ease, or support our hearts long for.

But what if you didn’t?

What if you didn’t have to hustle for your healing?
What if you didn’t have to “deserve” your desires?
What if you could just… let them in?

The Wound That Whispers “Not Yet”

I’m going to be honest with you—this one is still unfolding for me.

Even after all the work I’ve done, all the growth, the coaching, the receipts of how powerful and transformational my work is—this worthiness thing still tries to whisper when it’s time to send an invoice.
Not as loud as before, but it’s there.

That pause.
That double-check.
That moment of “Is this too much?”
That internal wrestling match of value vs. price vs. permission.

But I’ve learned to walk myself through it, not around it. I take a breath, remind myself: Your work is brilliant. Your mind is a masterpiece. Your results are real. And that worthiness? That worthiness isn’t tied to effort. It isn’t about whether I worked “hard enough” this week. It isn’t about how many hours I clocked or how long I’ve waited.

Worthiness simply is.

It’s not something we earn. It’s something we remember.

The Lie of Deserving

So many of us—especially as Black women—were trained to believe that you have to work twice as hard to get half as much. We were told that if you just grind long enough, serve deeply enough, or wait patiently enough, then maybe you’d finally “deserve” the life you want.

And while that message was born from survival, it can become a prison if we’re not careful.

It teaches us to delay joy.
To measure our value by productivity.
To see ease as suspicious.
To resist blessings that come unearned—even when they are the ones we prayed for.

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to perform for your blessings.

You just have to stop blocking them.

How Blocking Shows Up

Let’s name it so we can see it when it shows up:

• Deflecting compliments. (“Oh, this old thing?”)
  
• Shrinking when someone wants to pay full price.
  
• Apologizing for taking up space or time.
  
• Feeling uncomfortable when things come too easily.
  
• Struggling to receive money, help, love, or rest unless you’ve “earned it.”
  

The worthiness wound will make you reject the very thing you said you wanted—because you haven’t given yourself permission to have it just because you want it.

Letting It In Anyway

So what does it look like to let it in before you feel like you deserve it?

It looks like:

💫 Saying thank you without a disclaimer.
💫 Naming your price and not shrinking.
💫 Letting someone else carry the groceries—even if you can do it yourself.
💫 Sitting in joy without needing to justify it.
💫 Trusting that you’re worthy of rest, right now. Not later. Not after.

It’s not a one-time decision. It’s a moment-by-moment softening.

It’s walking toward the life you want while gently telling that old belief, “You don’t get to drive anymore.”

The Worthiness Ritual

I’ve created a ritual that helps me when the “you don’t deserve this yet” voice tries to creep back in:

1. I name the lie. (“This is a worthiness wound talking.”)
   
2. I name the truth. (“I am worthy just because I am.”)
   
3. I take the next step anyway. (I send the invoice. I say thank you. I receive the support.)
   

And sometimes, I even whisper this affirmation:
🌸 “I don’t have to deserve it. I only have to allow it.”

It’s tender work. But it’s also liberating work.

What If You Believed It?

Really—what if you believed, right now, without changing anything about who you are, that you were worthy of:

• A soft life.
  
• Overflowing wealth.
  
• Delicious, peaceful days.
  
• Love without labor.
  
• Payment for your brilliance.
  
• Opportunities that knock without you begging.
  

Would you stop earning so hard?
Would you start receiving with more ease?

Would you smile more? Rest more? Ask for help? Name your number?
Would you let the life you want… in?

Journal Prompts for Your Worthiness Journey

Pull out your journal or Notes app. Let these questions guide you:

1. Where in my life do I feel I still have to “earn” love, money, or rest?
   
2. What would shift if I believed I was worthy of ease and joy—right now?
   
3. What is one area where I can receive without guilt this week?
   
4. What’s the story I’ve been telling myself about why I don’t deserve it yet? Is it true?
   

You’re Not Alone

So many of us are still learning how to open the door. Still learning how to not just manifest it—but let it in.

If you’re walking through that work too, I want you to know this: you are not behind, broken, or bad at receiving. You are healing.

You are remembering what was always yours.

Let’s keep the conversation going inside Wealthy Women Conversations on Facebook. It’s a safe and powerful space for this kind of softness, joy, and deep truth-telling. We would love to hold space with you as you release the old stories and walk into your worthiness—no justification required.

Because you don’t have to deserve it first.
You just have to let it in.
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