Slower, Wealthier, Happier

Good morning, beautiful,

Every time I walk into my guest bathroom and see those whimsical candles sitting there, I smile a little and remind myself of something important. They are colorful and a little magical, sitting inside these beautiful iridescent glass containers that catch the light in a way that makes the whole room feel brighter. For years, I would have walked right past something like that and chosen the simple white candle instead. The safe one. The quiet one. The one that does the job but does not ask for attention. Now, when I see those candles I hear the same message in my head every single time. Get the thing you want.

That small choice reminds me of a bigger lesson that has been showing up in my life lately. I have spent many years as a full-time entrepreneur. Long enough to know my work, my skill, and my expertise. I have built systems, supported businesses, and helped people solve real problems. I have the stories and the experience to prove what I know how to do. Yet even with all of that behind me, there were still moments where I would soften what I asked for just to make things easier for someone else.

Recently, I had the chance to pitch to two different companies for work that fits perfectly inside my lane of expertise. After the conversations, they both asked for a proposal. When I sat down to write those proposals, I found myself pausing for a moment and looking at the numbers. I knew what the work was worth. I knew the value of the result. I knew the price that matched the level of service I provide. But there was a small voice that wondered if lowering the number would make it easier for them to say yes.

That moment felt familiar because it is something many of us have done. We quiet the real ask so we can get through the door. We soften the number. We make it easier. We tell ourselves that once we are inside we will prove ourselves and everything will balance out later. But something inside me said no this time.

So I left the number exactly where it belonged.

I asked for the thing.

That decision was not about being difficult or demanding. It was about being honest with myself. If the work has value, then the price must reflect that value. If I believe in my expertise, then my request should match that belief. The only response someone can give is yes or no, and both of those answers are perfectly clear.

Beautiful, there is something powerful about asking for what you actually want. It changes the way you walk into the room. It changes the way you feel when the work begins. It removes the quiet frustration that shows up when we know we accepted less than what felt right.

Those whimsical candles remind me of that lesson every day. They are small and playful and completely unnecessary in the best way. But they also hold a message that is bigger than the object itself. Choose the version you actually want. Ask for the thing that matches your heart and your value.

You are allowed to ask for the thing. The real thing. The full thing. The answer may be yes, and the answer may be no, but at least you will know that you showed up honestly in your own life.

Love always,
Your most Magical Self 💋💕