Slower, Wealthier, Happier

I remember the day so clearly.

My husband and I were in the middle of moving. We had made the decision to downsize temporarily while preparing to build our next home, and like most transitions, this one was layered. A little stress. A little excitement. A whole lot of boxes.

We had hired movers to help us make the shift, and we had everything lined up. Or so I thought.

That morning, a couple—dear friends of ours—showed up to help. I thought they were just coming to lend a few extra hands, maybe carry a box or bring good vibes. But instead, they came with a gift.

The husband quietly walked over to the movers as they arrived and—before we even had a chance to reach for our wallets—paid them. Paid the entire moving fee. Just like that. As his way of supporting us.

And his wife? She walked right into our new kitchen, unpacked every box, and organized every item like she had known that kitchen all her life. Plates, spices, pantry—everything was in place before I could even breathe.

I stood there stunned.

And uncomfortable.

I felt something I hadn’t been expecting: a desperate need to pay them back.
I wanted to give the money back. I wanted to argue with their kindness. I wanted to tell her she didn’t have to unpack a thing.

And that was the moment I realized…

I didn’t know how to receive.

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The Hidden Discomfort of Being Blessed

I had no problem giving to others. No problem showing up for people, paying for the lunch, writing the check, lending the support.

But when it was my turn?

When love, generosity, and help showed up for me?

My first reaction was to reject it.

• I told myself I was being polite.
  
• I told myself I didn’t need it.
  
• I told myself I could handle it all.
  

But beneath those excuses was something else entirely:
A deeply rooted belief that I had to earn every single thing I received.

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Why We Block the Very Things We Pray For

Here’s the truth nobody likes to say out loud:

You can’t ask for overflow while you’re side-eyeing the trickle.

You can’t say, “I want God to bless me with more clients, more money, more help, more love…”
…and then simultaneously say, “Oh no, I’ve got it,” when a friend offers to cover your coffee or your mom wants to send you $50.

That’s not humility.
That’s a receiving block.

And baby—receiving blocks don’t care how ambitious you are.
They don’t care how much you give to others.
They don’t care how hard you work.

If you’ve been taught that needing help is weakness…
If you’ve been taught that your value comes from how much you do…
If you’ve watched the women around you do everything on their own…

Then receiving will feel unsafe. Unfamiliar. Uncomfortable.

Until you unlearn it.

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What Receiving Blocks Actually Look Like

Here are a few sneaky signs that you might struggle with receiving:

• You downplay your accomplishments
  
• You deflect compliments (“Oh this old thing?”)
  
• You feel guilty when someone pays for you
  
• You try to “even the score” immediately after being helped
  
• You constantly say “I’m good,” even when you’re not
  
• You think being independent means being untouched
  

If any of those feel like you—you’re not broken. You’re not bad.
You’re just conditioned.

But the beautiful news is this:

Receiving is not a personality trait. It’s a skill. A muscle. And it can be strengthened.

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Receiving and Wealth Go Hand in Hand

So let’s be honest about what’s really at stake here.

You’re asking for:

• Overflowing bank accounts
  
• A bigger home
  
• A six-figure business
  
• Clients that pay with ease
  
• More time, more peace, more freedom
  

But if you flinch when someone gives you a $10 lunch, how will you hold $10,000 without sabotaging it?

If you feel unworthy of being helped with dishes, how will you lead a team that wants to take things off your plate?

Every “yes” you practice in small ways opens the energetic door for the big yeses to land.

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Journal Prompt: Let’s Go Deeper

Take some quiet time this week and reflect on these questions:

1. When was the last time someone tried to bless or help you—and you said no?
   
2. What story did you tell yourself about why you couldn’t receive it?
   
3. What are you afraid people will think of you if you say yes to help, money, rest, or ease?
   
4. What is something small you could receive this week—without explanation or apology?
   

Write it out. No censoring. Just truth.

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Wealth Whisper Tip 💸

Receiving is the root system of wealth. If you want more, practice saying yes.
Let someone buy the coffee. Accept the compliment. Take the nap. Open the door. Say thank you—and leave it at that.

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You Don’t Have to Heal Alone

This month on the blog is all about receiving, and I want you to receive more than just words.

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