What Slower Feels Like in Real Life

A true love letter to your nervous system, your time, and the life you get to design

Slower doesn’t always look like taking a nap.
Sometimes slower is just… not rushing.

It’s waking up without an alarm.
Not because you don’t have things to do, but because your body is learning it doesn’t have to be startled into living.

It’s sipping your tea while it’s still hot, not reheating it for the third time.
It’s doing one thing at a time instead of trying to juggle five.
It’s realizing the grocery store can wait—because your peace can’t.

Slower isn’t lazy.
It’s intentional.

And let me tell you what it feels like in real life…

Slower Feels Like Breathing for the First Time in a Long Time

It’s standing in the middle of your kitchen and realizing—
you’re not behind.
No one’s rushing you.
There is no stopwatch on your joy.

It’s letting the bread rise without hovering.
It’s tending to your little garden just because you want to see something grow.
It’s walking around your home barefoot, present, and unbothered.

It’s looking at the clock and not panicking.
It’s getting things done without performing urgency.

Slower feels like trust.

Trusting that if you move with care, everything that’s meant for you will meet you there.

Slower Is a Nervous System Shift, Not Just a Schedule Change

This isn’t about becoming less productive.
This is about becoming less panicked.

Because the fast-paced grind isn’t just in our calendars—it’s in our breath.
In our relationships.
In our decision-making.

Slower is the pause before you say yes.
It’s the space between the question and your answer.
It’s letting yourself feel before you fix.

It’s choosing to stop mid-task and say, “I need a moment.”
And it’s letting that moment be enough.

Slower Feels Like Fullness Without Frenzy

It’s smiling because you can.
Not because someone’s watching.

It’s spending time with your husband and actually feeling him next to you.
Not just sharing space, but sharing presence.

It’s noticing the way he touches your arm.
The softness in his kiss.
The tiny, sacred ways he says “I love you” without ever using words.

Slower means you don’t miss it.
Because you’re not sprinting past it.

You start to see the richness in the ordinary.
The beauty in the quiet.
The wealth in the now.

Slower Is Strategic

This isn’t just poetic.
This is powerful.

When Black women slow down, we break systems that were never built to serve us.
We stop managing everyone else’s emergencies.
We stop waiting to be chosen.
We start choosing ourselves.

Slower gives us the clarity to say:

I actually don’t want that opportunity.
That relationship doesn’t honor me.
That urgency is not my problem.
That joy? I’m keeping it.

Wealth doesn’t always come from speeding up.
Sometimes it comes from doing less but feeling more.

Slower Is a Practice, Not a Vibe

Some days I slip back into fast.
Into performing.
Into trying to prove.

But I come back.
I breathe.
I remember.

Because slower isn’t about perfection—it’s about permission.

To be here.
To be you.
To be enough.

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